In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first
marriages, and 60% of second marriages, will end in divorce. There are some well
known factors that put people at higher risk for divorce: marrying at a very early age,
less education and income, living together before marriage, a premarital pregnancy,
no religious affiliation, coming from a divorced family, and feelings of insecurity. The
most common reasons people give for their divorce are lack of commitment, too much
arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in
the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse. Some of these problems
can be fixed and divorce prevented. Commitment is having a long-term view of the
marriage that helps us not get overwhelmed by the problems and challenges day to
day. When there is high commitment in a relationship, we feel safer and are willing to
give more for the relationship to succeed. Commitment is clearly a factor in why some
couples stay together and others divorce. Divorce is necessary at times, and it may even
help to preserve the moral boundaries of marriage. But parents have a responsibility to
do all that they reasonably can to preserve and repair a marriage, especially when the
reasons for divorce are not the most serious ones. Barriers to leaving a marriage, such
as financial worries, can keep marriages together in the short run. However, unless
there is improvement in the relationship, eventually the barriers are usually not enough
to keep a marriage together in the long run.
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